I’ve always had that feeling that people don’t like me because I don’t talk that much and that I don’t know what to say in a conversation. So I always thought about my answers before the other person finished talking, but that’s not a good idea either.

People notice when you’re not listening to them and when you’re thinking about something different, even though you don’t want to show that on purpose.

There is a difference between listening and waiting for your turn to speak.

– Simon Sinek

What are you thinking when you’re talking to someone? What do you want them to do? Do you want to talk about your stuff and listen to you and your problems? A lot of people just want others to listen to their problems. Just talking about it releases the stress of thinking about it. Sometimes they don’t even want an answer.

Just let them speak. Don’t interrupt them. And show interest.

Then the people feel liked and they will like you too.

We are always focused on ourselves and we think about ourselves a lot. We are talking about ourselves a lot too. We want others to understand us, we want to share our opinion and we want attention and recognition.

Every person is focused on himself the whole time: what he should wear, what other people think of him, how I look, how I feel, and how I make a good impression.

When you talk, you are only repeating what you already know. But if you listen, you may learn something new.

– Dalai Lama

One of the things you can do to be a good friend and to be remembered as a good small talker is to listen to the other person, be present in the moment, and be honestly interested in the other person’s life.

Every person is unique and you can learn something from everyone. Be open to new opinions and things you never thought of. Listen to every person like you’ve never heard those stories before.

Every person and their story is unique. Listen to them, you can learn a lot from them.

It doesn’t matter how much you’re talking, just listen and talk less than the other person and he will think you’re a good small talker.

Be present.

Listen.

Be open.

I attract a crowd, not because I’m an extrovert or I’m over the top or I’m oozing with charisma. It’s because I care.

– Gary Vaynerchuk

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